We write these posts whenever we get some new inspiration or understanding of human sexuality, especially when we can relate it to our Christian faith, and generally that seems to happen about every three weeks. Our knowledge of this subject is constantly being increased and new angles develop on similar themes all the time, and that’s how these posts come together. There have been a lot of ideas, and some of them are still in draft form waiting for whenever they will become more fully realised.
The issue we want to discuss today is body confidence for a Christian woman. That means in essence how confident you are in your sexuality and womanhood, since your concept of your physical body is so much a major part of that. We have come around to the idea that it being commonly the case that there are these parts of your body that you are very sensitive about, and that sensitivity flows into your overall confidence about your feminine identity and sexuality. If you are too sensitive or lacking confidence about these parts of your body, you’ll also lack confidence about your femininity and womanhood in general.
So you need to become confident about those especially sensitive areas. Whilst we understand you have lots of body areas you can struggle with, the one that we understand are key to your feminine identity are going to be your genitals, buttocks and thighs, just so much because they are all so close together, with your genitals right in the centre, not just physically but also conceptually as well.
So how do you overcome that sensitivity and become confident? The answer has already been expounded upon in other previous posts that we’ve made on this blog. That’s what we mean when we talk about sexual development. We talk about how important it is for that process to start in adolescence and be developed throughout the period of your early sexual development when you are single, before you enter into marriage (for many of you, anyway). That’s how it is best for you to build up that confidence. And in singleness you will reach a point that enables you to be more confident about getting married, starting a family and bringing up your children, but life is one continuous journey of sexual development as new challenges keep coming your way, so you need to keep walking in it and not stop developing at any particular point in life.
We’ve previously articulated what we believe is the important role that masturbation can play in your personal journey of sexual development. We know that many women just like you can get a lot of really beautiful messages about your genitals from the pleasure that is generated from stroking and touching them. It’s because these affirming messages are generated that sex therapists believe masturbation has a lot of benefit to men and women who have experienced issues like abuse in their lives and who need to attain greater wholeness in their sexuality.
Well, that’s a secular perspective of the situation. What is the way for you to apply this concept as a Christian woman? We have previously articulated that we believe God created these parts of your body to give you pleasure, and that as you own these parts, you do have a “right” to experience that pleasure when you are on your own, without having to choose to share the experience with anyone else. Because even if you choose to share the experience with your husband, if you are married, or with God if you are single, the physical pleasure you get from touching and stroking is still happening in your body as a direct result, and is for you to enjoy. You’ll naturally want to share that pleasurable time in a godly way and you’ll want to serve God and/or your husband, but at the end of the day, the pleasure that is happening in your own body is for you to enjoy and be blessed by. We don’t want to suggest that it is selfish to enjoy that pleasure; the best context for you to experience it in is when you share the time with God and/or your husband and therefore exercise the gift of serving one another, or fulfilling a godly purpose in such a session.
So go ahead and masturbate, or if it is your thighs or buttocks that need some reinforcement then give them plenty of stroking, caressing and squeezing as needed. You get these messages from the enjoyable feelings that your body generates, but also from letting God speak His own messages to you as well. As we have articulated elsewhere, we have the utmost confidence that God wants you to overcome those negative feelings and sensitivities about these body areas. He wants you to understand just how beautiful you really are in a very practical sense, and He wants that understanding to flow through into every other area of your life and enable you to become the mighty woman of God that He has always had in mind for you.