…Because the Christian church has largely been silent on this topic, providing no practical guidance or solutions whatsoever, Christian singles have largely taken things into their own hands (literally — no pun intended, lol. I’ve heard some people call it “hand ministry,” “personal ministry” or “personal devotion.”)… We do what we can. Christian singles find solutions that work for them, that don’t violate their conscience, and are in keeping with Biblical principles (i.e. staying away from fornication and adultery and “sexual immorality”)…
…Many people, myself included, would argue that the church needs talk about these things. However, the church has often grievously mishandled these conversations and I no longer trust it to be able to host the much-needed conversation on sexuality. I remember a few AYs (Adventist Youth — aka youth group meetings) where we had an “Ask the Pastor” session, and those sessions were disastrous. Old people dominated the discussion, shaming young people. Bible texts were taken out of context. I left feeling worse than when I came…
https://simonesamuels.blog/2017/03/04/i-still-want-it-holy-and-horny/