With anything we write on this blog, we tend to repeat ourselves just because it isn’t really structured; there are a few categories that can be used in posts, but they are quite high level. So here is another post on our view of Christian male sexuality, that may possibly contain some new content, but is equally likely to repeat previous concepts and themes.
Sexual fulfillment is going to mean different things to different people, and especially between men and women. We think the differences between genders are highly likely to boil down to the different ways that they relate to sex. So for a male. sexual fulfillment is bound to revolve around physical concepts.
For you as a male, a key aspect of your sexuality comes from the production of sperm in your body, which is a continuous process; women only produce an egg about once a month, so they are not continuously fertile. The other interesting point, of course, is that in theory you can control the release of your sperm whereas a woman cannot control the release of her eggs. When this factor is combined with the typically higher sex drive that guys like you have, we believe masturbation is not only healthy and normal for any male, including Christians, but is practically mandated for sexual discipline, which is equally important for you whether you are single or married.
There are a number of ways you can be sexually fulfilled as a male, and a significant part of your sexual fulfillment, we believe, relates to your ability to release a load of sperm from your body. Typically, you are going to want to do this as often as possible, and your body will most likely cooperate well with such intentions. We believe it is healthy for single men to masturbate daily; for those of you who are married, it is something you’ll want to discuss with your wife, because she may agree to be sexual more often if more of your sexually intimate times together involve masturbation and there is less pressure on her for penetration every time. So supposing that you end up agreeing with her to share an orgasm together most days, you might want to masturbate on your own less often in order to make the most of those times together.
For married guys, the physical fulfillment of sex is going to be most desirable when you get the opportunity to release your load inside your wife’s reproductive system. It isn’t so much about whether the two of you are attempting to procreate at that point, although that is important; it is about the spiritual impetus of releasing your life giving seed. That release spiritually symbolises the infusion of life into your marriage and family life which is one of your key objectives and responsibilities in the marriage. Even in those times when you need to masturbate alone, or when your sexual release with your wife is achieved by masturbation, an appropriate form of prayer at the moment of ejaculation can achieve the same outcome. We encourage you to think about those times when you are making love to your wife as actual times of ministry to her and your family, because sexual intercourse is in reality, a deeply spiritual act in many ways, and looking on it as a time of worship is highly significant in the lives of Christian believers.
If you are a single guy, you’ll still find it useful to ascertain some kind of spiritual significance each time you masturbate and orgasm. We have already (in previous posts) referred to sexual devotion as a possible objective of a masturbation session. This remains highly relevant to this discussion. The life that is going to be spiritually released when you ejaculate as such is going to be more relevant to your personal relationship with God. We do believe it is healthy and normal to seek this as a regular outcome, for example on a daily basis. Some guys do find it helpful to masturbate more than a once a day, and others less; what is really relevant is how masturbation contributes to your life. If your practice of masturbation is healthy and really enjoyable for you, including that it consistently brings sexual fulfillment and a sense of being closer to God, you’ll naturally feel inclined to masturbate more often anyway. So in that context, how you use masturbation is very much governed by the devotional aspect of it that we have talked about previously on this blog.
In a sense, we see the object of masturbation, especially for single guys, as being sexual fulfillment that is both:
- Physical – releasing a load of semen from your body gives you a strong sense of achievement and performance in relation to your sexual body and reproductive system and therefore it is of high significance as a type of sexual fulfillment for you. It is certainly very satisfying from this perspective for you to know that your body is constantly manufacturing more semen ready for ejaculation and how much sperm there is in each load. The key difference for a godly man from what the world teaches is using masturbation in a way that is not lustful or involve any other type of sin, including any behaviour that is harmful or negative towards yourself or anyone else.
- Spiritual – in the way we referred to above, each load released at ejaculation symbolises the release of spiritual life into your world. In other words, masturbation can bless your life as a Christian man. This is especially true when you use masturbation for the 3-D purposes.