We’re picking up a theme we addressed in a post from a day or two back, and that is in relation to how a Christian woman can feel beautiful and sexual when it’s just you and it’s just your underwear that you are dressed in, and as with the previous post, this is especially relevant for those of you who are singles. Underwear is a special type of clothing that has some important functions, including the separation of most of our other clothing from parts of our physical bodies that tend to be more difficult to keep clean, and so avoiding the transfer of bodily fluids and excretions to the outer clothing where it is more of a nuisance. Generally because of this we change our underwear at least daily and its design may incorporate extra features that help to control and confine the fluids or excretions to prevent embarrassment. That then is the physical description of what underwear does to help us control our basic bodily functions.
But there is another purpose of underwear which is more related to our physical, emotional and spiritual vulnerability. Underwear doesn’t cover much of our bodies, and the parts that it does cover are those which we have a tendency to associate with shame and embarrassment. The theme of this post is really to encourage you as Christian women to feel more confident about the sexual parts of your bodies that are normally covered by underwear, and to feel beautiful when underwear is the only clothing that you are wearing, and when the only person who sees you is God. Because when you are perhaps standing in the bathroom in front of the mirror, or getting dressed in the morning before starting your day, or getting undressed ready for bed in the evening, underwear is just a single layer of clothing covering your naked body, and it is just one step removed from the point where you have to confront the physical, spiritual and emotional realities of the parts that are normally covered by it.
We feel we can confidently assert that your sense of sexual identity, sexuality, femininity and womanhood is fundamentally tied to how confident you personally are able to feel about your body when you are wearing no more than underwear. In turn, this flows into how you feel that you are able to cope with life in general, and your place in the world. One of the most important messages and themes of this blog for Christian women is our core belief that you are at least equal to men in all respects insofar as church ministry goes, and in many other aspects of life. We have sought to distance ourselves from complementarian theology; whilst we recognise that men and women are physically different, unlike complementarian thought that these differences predicate strongly gender specific roles, we believe that gender differences only constrain aspects of life that relate to the functions of those uniquely feminine or masculine body parts. Underwear being right against our skin is a part of our clothing that we can physically feel most strongly, and we can feel secure from that pressure against our skin that our underwear is up to the job, we can also spend a lot of time feeling apprehensive about the possibility of some kind of embarrassment if our underwear turns out to be not up to the job and something leaks out. In the same sort of way, we can feel that our actual sexual parts that are covered by the underwear are not up to their intended purpose. This is exacerbated by the relentless pressure and negativity placed on women in society.
We believe that sexual confidence in a woman flows through into your everyday life, and for a Christian woman, into any ministry roles you may fulfil as well; therefore, it is actually highly beneficial for you to have confidence in the functioning of your sexual organs and this is going to be impacted in many ways, some more subtle than others. We believe the appropriate way for you as a godly woman to achieve the confidence that you need in the functioning of your sexual parts is by applying the same techniques that have been described in previous posts. In other words, when you spend the time touching your sexual parts and enjoying the physical pleasures they produce, you can gain a renewed sense of the physical, emotional and spiritual beauty that is designed into the functioning of these bodily areas and truly enjoy the knowledge that you are “fearfully and wonderfully made” as described in the Bible. One obvious challenge that some married women have to overcome is if they experience infertility, or other “female problems” or difficulties in sexual intimacy, which can understandably all affect this perception of sexual confidence, as can problems with overall body image. We recommend seeking Christian counselling and prayer for some of these more significant challenges. Sexual confidence is somewhat harder to measure for single women when you don’t have the full expression of your sexual parts that married women can experience in sexual intercourse with their husband as well as pregnancy and motherhood. Ultimately as a single Christian woman you will need to focus on achieving that expectation of sexual confidence through masturbation, self-caressing and the 3-Ds.